Who's Wedding Is It Anyway

I am starting to understand why some brides and grooms elope! The wedding planning process has not been terrible so far, well probably because we have only just begun, but there is one thing that is starting to drive me crazy! I am starting to discover that family members have a tendency to offer their opinions when they are not welcome. This just creates unwanted stress! My grandma is pressuring me to invite an aunt I don't even know. I have probably seen my so-called aunt 5 times in my entire life. I realize it is only one extra person and she is "family," but it is the principle. What makes my grandma think she deserves an invite? I am struggling to do the right thing. I don't want to disappoint my elderly grandma, but I don't want to invite someone I don't know to the wedding 9I don't think my dad wants her in attendance either). Each and every invite is so important when you are paying for the event yourself. Oh boy!

Additionally, I recently found out that one of my wedding party members "hates" the dress. I have been asked to consider allowing her to wear a different dress. Sorry, but this is one area I am not willing to negotiate. I have this vision of all bridesmaids being in the same dress, with the same accessories. I like uniformity. Is that so wrong? After all, I am the bride, so shouldn't I be the one who stands out?? Don't worry I am stepping down from my bridezilla soapbox now. No, I don't plan on have the girls all wear their hair in the same up-do with the same makeup. I am not that bad. The groomsmen are wearing the same style of tux, so I think the bridesmaids should be in the same style dress.

My mom is making me feel extremely guilty because we are planning the wedding from LA. She claims that she always imagined helping me plan this glorious event. I wish I could assign her a task, but I honestly don't know what that task would be. I feel like Joe and I have it under control. We already have our key vendors secured and I have tons of ideas about other things. I guess I could send my mom to the cake tasting, so I can still fit in my dress I ordered.

It is kind of nice having a place to vent. I feel much better after documenting these issues. If only I could feel better about the cost of a wedding. Happy tax day to me. My return is going to a florist deposit and reception deposit. To think I could have had a new Louis Vuitton!